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My mom expressed excited interest about iPads and Kindles today, though she was dubious of the Kindle replacing books, as she doesn't trust the electronic thing to keep what it loads for future reference/re-reading. I'm really surprise she was so interested in the iPad. I may get her one, as it's the first technological thing she's been excited about.
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In her words:

1993 Saturn SL1 4dr standard transmission blue body is in great condition clear coat is peeling around front of hood and front lights.

Odometer stopped working in Aug of 2007 at 119,000 I estimate from my inspection slips there is around 134,000 miles on the car.

It will need a tire rotation and the front left wheel boot (I'm no mechanic) looked at. Again I,m no mechanic the first gear is worn and when you start the car or idle it shakes (been doing this for a long time I sit in neutral) but once you go its fine.

I have had a new exhaust system put on(5 yrs) and a new fuel pump (3years)and new struts(6yrs). The car also eats oil, no drippage, but you have to add oil between oil changes. It still gets great highway mileage. If I can answer any other questions let me know. I could probably get a picture to you if you need it.



Me again:

The car is in Lake Ridge, VA, and i can arrange for you to look at it or test drive it if desired. She's looking for $5-600 ideally, but is negotiable.
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My father's father, David Earl Gutridge, began his journey to beyond the veil at 19:00 GMT-4 today, 23 September 2009, aged 83. May he rest in peace.
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Well, where to begin. Let's start on 24 June - [livejournal.com profile] tomhundleyrn and i left for, and arrived in, Cleveland, OH and checked into our hotel.

The 25th was a day of cardiac appointments at the Cleveland Clinic, and a nice dinner at Flannery's Pub. The 26th had a gastroenterology appointment and a follow-up with the cardiologist. End result, he's to have a Septal myectomy (scroll down a bit). We then headed over to my paternal grandfather's place and had a nice dinner with him, Grandma, and my Aunt Cookie.

Grandad is showing sign of dementia. That Friday was a good day. It was interesting to hear him talk, for the first time ever, about when/why he left wife one and the kids - I don't know why i did it, but one day i just got in the car and drove West; I sent money back to Jean every payday. Jean being my biological grandmother on my dad's side. She died before i was born of the same thing that eventually killed my father and his sister.

Saturday the 27th saw us departing Cleveland at 3AM, and arriving at Baitcon at about Noon. Saturday, Sunday, and Monday were spent with friends and much, much ice cream.

Grandma called my mom the other day and let her her know that my uncle - dad's younger brother, was going into a nursing home due to mental deterioration and an inability to live on his own, and that his daughter was being placed in a group home due to mental retardation. Uncle is in a VA facility, and i believe my cousin is in, or nearly in a group home.

All this, plus a situation with one that L and i refer to as The Evil, has left me a bit emotionally fragile at the moment. Generally content, not unhappy, but a tad fragile feeling, if that makes sense. There's some general worry about [livejournal.com profile] tomhundleyrn in there too, though i know the procedure is going to go alright, and that he'll feel a good bit better post-recovery. (aside: how odd that there was a noise like bells just now; maybe it was in ice cream truck - it is July after all)
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P1: "Happy Father's Day to all those fathers that are handling their business!"
P2: "And moms who are doing double duty!!!"

I saw that on Facebook. I agree with P1. As for P2:

NO NO NO NO NO! As many of you know, my father died when i was 15. It infuriated me when anyone suggested that now my mother would need to play both roles. NO! She is not my father, could not be my father, and should not in any way try to be so. NO!

IT is NOT the same. At ALL.

There is a whole world of support and understanding that no woman could have meaningfully supplied for me at that age. And for that matter, there's still myriad ways that no woman can support me and provide insight into various things at this point in my life.

I'm all for equality in society, respect and work. At the same time, i see use for separate spaces some of the time.

BUT no mother can be a father nor vice-versa, and i feel it is wrong of someone to purport to be doing so. There are, in fact, some things that are gender-specific, and textbook understanding, though good, is not sufficient.


P.S. Thank you, Ghassan, may you be peacefully in a better place.

ONE exception. I know a few women who were fathers. THOSE women can provide some of that support and insight, if they so choose, for they have lived it.

Equality does not equal sameness. And as most humans, i think, know, there are some things one wants to discuss with others of one's own gender, and that is not a bad thing.

Outhouses

Feb. 20th, 2009 12:06 am
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As many of you know, my dad grew up - til he was 15 - on a dairy farm in central Ohio, in a place called Hopewell. Aunt Ruth, the youngest sister of granddad - dad's dad - lives on a farm a tad West of there called Jacksontown. Growing up, we visited Aunt Ruth on her farm, as we still do today. When Aunt Ruth and Uncle John (he died when i was 4) bought there house, it had the same model woodstove in the kitchen that John's parents had when they married. And a pump in the corner of the kitchen, which pumped into a trough/sink that drained through the side of the house. And there was a WPA outhouse not too far outside, and a bit to the East of the North door. The outhouse had a West-facing door that opened to the North.

The seat was concrete, and the walls were wood. I think there were two seats, but i only recall one.
And there's still a pump outside the North door, but i don't think water's run from it in most of a quarter century at this point.

I remember visiting Aunt Ruth when i was i think 19. I was chasing my then-10-year-old cousin R around the house. As we came round from the West side to the North, i stopped short, mouth open staring, and stopped laughing. R stopped, turned around, came over, and asked what was wrong. "The outhouse is gone", i said, pointing. "You mean the tool shed"? Patting her kindly on the head, "Yes, R, the tool shed; the tool shed is gone."

It made me sad to see it gone. I'd only used it a few times, when there was a line for the bathroom, which along with a deep freezer and washer and dryer, are in what was a bedroom off of the kitchen.
It was torn out to accommodate a larger garage. Discussing it's removal with my cousins, we all missed it, and we all thought that a privy in the corner of the garage would be a pretty neat thing, esp since we all remember using it when the bathroom was not available. Ah, well, things they change.

This brief memoir brought to you complements of this most interesting documentary about outhouses, which i ganked from [livejournal.com profile] dc_gay_man, includes someone else mentioning the WPA outhouses and has pictures of them being built, among stories from people and less-interesting outhouse races in the last 20 minutes of the 60-minuet run time. It's well worth the watch:


The Shiver Shack from Roberta Pacino on Vimeo.
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for i'm now way awake, and need to leave for work in 6 hours. Wee!

Had Xmas with the family today. Bro-in-law made me a beautiful cutting board/serving tray. Pictures forthcoming, as well as additional details. Sweet dreams to all'o'yall.
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I'll be heading to work shortly, hopefully with Chinese food in tow. It was nice having trade user thank me for being there yesterday, in my one and only call for the night.

I've heard rumor that as of 2 January i'm going back to days, which is surprising if true, seeing as two weeks ago i was told it wasn't possible.

If that be the case, i need to change class sections for the Spring semester, as it's not worth an eighth of my income to take a class. I found an open section on T-R 19:30-21:20 that will work better with a day shift. Now, just for the official word from work so i know whether i need to change. Sigh.

And Mom called at 10:30, waking me from a sound sleep, and getting an incoherent me. I'll ring her tonight. As well as my sister.

Oh, and despite a most wondrous Solstice ritual on Sunday, i have no holiday spirit this year - not 'bah humbug' so much as 'meh'.

7 December

Dec. 7th, 2007 07:30 pm
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Today is my mother's birthday.

I don't remember how old i was, but i remember that she explained to me that she was born on the 7th anniversary of the Pearl Harbor attack, to help me remember.

That attack resulted in my then 13-year old maternal grandfather altering his birth certificate to show he was 16, so he could enilist in the US Navy, and defend that which wes right. Today, his left arm is all but useless from that service. I remember how happy he was when the VA finally gave him an arm brace with veclro insead of with buckles.

Grandma used to tell me about convincing her schoolmates to give their lunch money for war bonds. Shopping with her - at the grocery store, the drugstore, May Company, wherever - decades later, those people remembered her, and thanked her for that.

How things change.
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Tonight, i am restless; restless like i haven't been in some time. I've paced. I've tried calling people. Played a few rounds of tennis and bowled some on the Wii. May have to go for a walk.


Deathnote )


Mom, Monday, and grlsctgnbad )


New job, credit reports, courts and lien )


Bun-bun is doing very well, we let him roam a good bit, which has improved his confidence and mood a good bit. He and Feldspar play some, chasing each other. Jasper is a bit afraid of him. Jasper spent his first 18 months in a househould with a big log-ear who thumped loudly, and i'm guessing may have nipped him. He and Bun-bun have sniffed, but Jasper is yet leery.


Okay, i think i'll stop now.
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I just made egg salad, and am toasting some bread to go with it. Smelling it brings me back to the lazy Sunday mornings of my childhood, mostly because it's Safeway store brand bread in the toaster, which was the bread we most always had on hand growing up. It's always amazing hov evocative smells are.
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I'm leaving for Cleveland, OH tonight, and will have limited web access tomorrow AM through late Sunday night. Tomrrow, rehearsal and dinner, Saturday, Grandad marries Bea, and reception, Sunday, dinner with Grandpa. Wee! No rest this weekend. Peace out, yall!

Aunt Helga

Apr. 16th, 2007 12:28 am
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When the Wall fell, my aunt Helga got to go to where she grew up for the 1st time since 13 August 1961. While there, she got to see her mother's grave, and be at her father's side when he died. The DDR government wouldn't let her go home on that day in 1961, when she'd gone shopping in West Berlin. Her parents brought her money and her documents, and she got on the first flight to the US, ending up in Columbus, OH, and not long after, meeting my uncle Gilbert and marrying him.

Entertainingly to me, her maiden name is Siebenhaar.

This post is from a thread in a post in [livejournal.com profile] da_lj's journal.
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Yeah, it's that kinda day. And there's rehearsal tonight. Sigh. And i still don't know what to get my sister for our birthday, which i'm pretty sure we're observing on Saturday.
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I put them into Scrapbook, and linked them here for you. Oh, forgot, you don't all have context. CRK and i were a couple from the Summer of 1993 to, effectively, Winter 1996. We're still on good terms, and chat. I last wrote about him here. He's doing much better now.

Me at 22, before the facial hair, before my hair began going white )

Jasper at age 2, when CRK, me, and the cat lived in Boston )

Me, Mom, Holly (my sister), and Jaden (her elder son), Spring 2004 )
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[livejournal.com profile] happypete posted a brief memoir about the Challenger disaster. That brought back a flood of complex, rather melancholy, memories for me. It was a Sunday, and i was finishing some homework in my room.
It's not long, but it seemed appropriate to cut it )
It's amazing how poignant a memory can be twenty years later. :) I also remember being interviewed by CNN in Mr. Sane's 3rd period (or was the 3rd class called 4th period that year) biology class the next day. And unlike [livejournal.com profile] happypete we lived in Prince William County, so i saw it on Cablevision, many years before they were eaten by Comcast.

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